Saturday, August 30, 2008

Don't expect do to things with me, but I'll still do things with you.

Friends come in many different levels, let's try to make some categories of them.

Best Friend: This person will always be there for you, they understand you, they call you and you call them, you both invite each other to hang out together. To put it simply, if it weren't for the fact that you're both straight and of the same gender you'd totally get married.

Close friend: You share a lot in common and you love each others company, you both invite one another to do things and you most always think of them when planning events with multiple people.

Friend: You share common interests and you get along, you hang out every once in a while whether it's them or you inviting each other to do things.

Friend by association: When you hang with other friends they're there and you both get along and are able to enjoy each others presence thus making them a friend by association. These people have the potential to be normal friends.

Now, it's more than likely that you've known close friends for a long time, and all these types of friends do have the potential of moving up a category. Sometimes you may even get lucky and meet somebody that turns into a best friend though you haven't known each other for a long time. Here's the part where I am going to rant though, this is the category of friend on which I intend to analyze.

LEECH FRIENDS: These friends can be solely leech friends, or they may fall into every category below best friend. The only time you ever hang out is when you call them and you're generally doing something that you have planned. The only time you do something they initiate is when you call them, find out what they're doing, and invite yourself. Let's say you call them and they're playing ultimate Frisbee, they didn't invite you but I'm sure they won't say no if you ask if you can join them. It's as if they only hang out with you because they just happen to have nothing to do when you call them, or they want to leave their house or just go somewhere. Now, I understand some people not inviting you to hang out with them due to the fact that you may not fit in with a certain group of friends they're with, but when that's not the case it just seems rude for them to not invite you. That's why they're leeches, all they do is take from your relationship and they seem to give NOTHING in return. Depending on what level of friend they are it's sometimes hard to stop being their friend, or in the case of the leech letting you be friends with them, as all they do is allow you to hang with them when you ask them to do something.

This post's lesson: If you're not willing to invite people do things with you then why even befriend them? Do them a favor and end your friendship so they don't think that they can rely on you to have a fun time, only to be mad at the fact that they're sitting at home on a Friday night while you're busy not making time for them.

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